We Are One Beloved Community

Last week I was in Washington, DC to attend/volunteer for the National Black Justice Coalition’s OUT on the Hill Black LGBT Leadership Summit, a four-day long summit that convened key stakeholders in the Black LGBT community, including elected officials, policy advocates, activists, and emerging leaders. To say it was an amazing experience would be an understatement—it was beautiful, uplifting, and most of all, empowering.

For the first time in my life, I was around people who both looked like me and identified in the same community, who I could reach out and talk to with open arms.

From the moment I walked in on the first day, I was embraced with a “hello” and a “Yasss honey, WERKK!” (in reference to my Beyoncé pin I adorned all week). From that moment on, I felt around family. Continue reading


Dear White Gays: Stop

 “When a Black woman tells you you’re not being a good ally, you listen; you don’t berate and undermine.” -Yvonne, Associate Editor of Autostraddle

My blood bubbles with fury as I see yet another article published by a white gay men responding to Sierra Mannie’s brilliant piece, “Dear White Gays: Stop Stealing Black Female Culture.” Here’s the thing, if you’re bothered by Sierra’s thoughts, get the hell over it. Black people, and Black women especially, have had to deal with centuries of white people literally getting to write how Black people DESERVED to be sexually violated and/or dead, with Black people never even being ALLOWED public space to rebut. But now that my beautiful Black sisters are refusing to be subjected to inappropriate cultural appropriation done by a community of inherent privilege, it seems like every white gay male has been given space to publish what they think is wrong, on a national level. STOP!

You were called out for a reason.

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